WHAT THE AUNTS HAVE TO SAY.

16/06/08

Tambu, of the royal house of the Zezuru:  

I am so glad you have decided to be Mary mother of Jesus and sacrifice yourself at the altar of a man who lied to you about his marital status.  God knows what else he lied about.

My analysis of your man is not as kind as yours. I feel that he used you as his toilet, a temporary relief because the wife of his heart was stuck in hot West Africa. He took advantage of a little girl who was obviously impressed by his earning power and banged you into a life that is not worth having.

You sound like such a common sense girl that I am shocked you would buy into his argument. What do you care about whether this will be the only child the Ghanaian will have? How do you know that he doesn't have a bundle of dark skinned babies in Ghana? What do you know about him? I bet you know nothing. His friends kept his secrets and so you found out nothing about him. I have to take a moment to admire a community that keeps each other's secrets. But do you know what this means? It means they don't see you as anything to them. You are worthless to them and to him.

 I think you should have the abortion forth with and not waste any more of your gray matter debating this stupidity.

You should always put yourself and your well being first. If you doubt me little sister, ask me to tell you my experiences some time. Do you think this man will do for you as you are doing for him? I think not.

Rather than gushing about how great he is as a person, you should be angry that he used you like a toilet. Your vagina was the only important thing to him and now he is about to use you again, as an incubator for his barren wife.

You are inviting trouble into your life in ten folds. This whole situation is nasty and reeks of life being destroyed. Yours and this baby's. Not his.

My advice is very simple and straight forward. Get rid of this baby and this man and start afresh. If you disagree with the abortion thing because there are many of us who do, then I say disagree but do it anyway.

I am done.

Clara from the Royal Kingdom of Lesotho:

You’ve really got me confused…………….where the hell do you live? Zimbabwe ? Ghana ?....where?

You are a liar! One minute you say you met your “boyfriend” (how you can even call him that is beyond me!) a few months ago, the next minute you tell us you have been together a year! For the life of me, how can a few months be a year? If you are going to seek advice from us, you had better be honest!

 
First of all, the age gap is something of a concern, not unless you were looking for a father not a boyfriend! Secondly, you’ve been dating this cheat for a year, and you want to tell me that not even once did his wife call when you were together. 

I’m surprised you still shower this man with praise, that he loves you, that he’s the best of all your boyfriends…….are you so dump that you still haven’t noticed that this man was using you to have a child, that he and his wife could not have?!

Think woman, why does he only tell you he’s married when you disclose you are pregnant? So that you don’t get your hopes up and don’t have any expectations about “happily ever after” with him. What he’s doing is to make clear that he’s only interested in the child and not you. Of course you are right, his wife will make sure that he has nothing to do with you once she’s there. I won’t be surprised, if this man planned this whole thing with his wife, to get some idiot out there to bear a child for them. I mean, he’s already “taken this child from you”, he’s bought the unborn child clothes and given the child a name already. It’s possible that your unborn child’s name comes from this man’s wife.

Are you in a position to raise a child? Do you want to have a child and not raise it? Do you never want to see your child ever again for the rest of you life? Do you want your child to hate you when she/he finally discovers that the woman raising her/him is not the biological mother, that the mother dumped her/him?

Not once have I read where you say you love this child already. Actually you are saying you don’t want this child because it will cause you grief and bring you suffering! With that line of thinking, I don’t think you should have this child. If you are not sitting there thinking the child will bring you happiness, but actually thinking it will bring you the opposite, then please terminate this pregnancy. I can only see a situation where this child will be the one to suffer at you and your “boyfriend’s” hands!

You said you are supporting your mother, and paying school fees for your siblings, and of course you will not do this forever. At some stage they will also have to work and take care of themselves. Then you will probably have met a decent human being, a decent guy and you will be old enough to make an informed decision whether you want to get married and have children or not. You may be in a better financial situation to take care of the child yourself even if you are not married. Belief me, this man has no place for you in his life, and don’t even fool yourself anymore. You’ve been his fool for more than a year already; do you want to be a fool for the rest of your life?

Get to a Dr quickly!!

Sally,from the Royal Tribe of the Whites:

A another story from a young girl that thinks a man is fantastic because he gives her presents and money and says he loves her....how many millions and millions of the same kind of stories are alive and kicking in the world today.

You think that love is money and presents well honey child that is just selling yourself to the highest bidder and it ain’t got anything to do with love.

I have one huge live threatening question....WHY THE HELL DID YOU HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH THE MAN......? Surely him being so old would have told you that he was probably married and had a family back in Ghana and you should have questioned him about his history but no you didn't’t because the money and gifts kept your mouth shut and now you want to make an unborn child suffer because you wanted money and gifts.

Why should that unborn little human being have to be killed to solve your problems? Problems that you created in the first place by selling yourself to an older man without finding out about his history.

No you do not qualify for an abortion because girls like you will have many more ‘’unwanted’’ pregnancies before they decide to grow up and start acting like respectable women.

You see once you have had your first abortion it is very easy to go for the second and third and so on and you need to learn a lesson a very harsh lesson that you will never be able to forget and it might just save your life next time.

DON’T ‘’LOVE’’ A MAN JUST BECAUSE OF WHAT HE CAN BUY FOR YOU OR GIVE TO YOU,DON’T OPEN YOUR LEGS BEFORE YOU KNOW THE HISTORY OF THE MAN AND DON’T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX BECAUSE OF HIV/AIDS.

Have the baby and give it up for adoption. That baby is not a sacrifice to be offered on your altar of mistakes. You say you can’t take care of the baby then give it to people who can and who really want to and get rid of the man now.. don’t wait then go and get yourself some therapy and self respect.

Learn the difference between love and ‘’selling’’ yourself.

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