Who should tell the mother that her son is gay!!

Nyaradzo has approached the Royal Agony Aunts with her distressing dilemma of life as we know it:

Dear Aunts:

This is a family problem and I am writing on behalf of the whole lot of us. We have a cousin we believe is gay. When we were younger, he would make comments about how beautiful other men were. We would all be stunned into silence.

While he was at university in South Africa, he had pictures taken at gay functions. The pictures came out in the newspapers. We saw them; we talked about them and some of us laughed. We were not surprised.

After those pictures came out in the newspapers, some of us approached him and asked him to his face if he was gay. He denied it.

Now, he works in a predominantly gay profession. He is an event organizer and a pretty good one too. He makes a great living. He lives with a guy, but has a “girlfriend.” In fact, he has had many girlfriends, but none of them have panned out. They all seem to be “not right for him.”

We keep asking him if he is gay? He has reached the point where he claims he doesn’t care.

My cousin is my Aunt’s only child. She adores him. He takes very good care of her. In fact, he is the best son one could wish for. All our mothers rely on him to do things for them. He is always there to help out. He doesn’t fight with anyone and has a very kind nature. If he has, he will give. He is a good person.

Now, here is the problem. My aunt has not come to terms with the fact that her son could be gay and we think that is why he leads such a life of lies. Half of us believe that it is his business to tell his mother about his sexual preferences and not ours. I am of that half. I believe this matter belongs to mother and son. It is not as if we are very sure he is gay. We don’t have concrete proof.

The other half of us has taken it upon themselves to throw it in my aunt’s face as much as they can. She is not a very nice person, so they use it to hurt her. They want her to know so that she will weep or something, I don’t know. They say they are freeing him from bondage by insisting that his mother admit her son is gay.

My question to you dear aunts, the aunts from the Bantus, where we all come from is, who is right here and who is wrong?

And the Agony Aunts and Uncle Say: go to page 2 to see what our Agony aunts and Uncle have to say.......

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